The Law of Circulation

Weaving together ideas about the spiritual Law of Circulation yesterday morning at Trinity Center for New Thought, our group was challenged to reflect on Life’s comings and goings-- the taking in and the weeding out, the accumulation and dispersal of resources, energies, talents; the holding on to and letting go of objects, careers, relationships, and finally, physical life itself as we travel along our spiritual paths. No small task, right? Well, we touched on all of it. With Rev. Jackie’s leadership, and Rev. Charles’ Points to Ponder, we must have talked about the Law in all its manifestations—the changing of the seasons; earning, spending, tithing; cleaning out our closets and garages to pass along what we no longer use, making room for new abundances; the loss and acquisition of jobs or income; children born or adopted only to leave their parents with empty nests; and finally, how to bear the emptiness that comes with the death of friends, parents, spouses as they make transitions into new forms of life.

When we were asked to consider what “death” meant to us, I realized that I had been thinking about the subject more than usual lately. Not in a morbid way of seeking or anticipating it, but it’s been on my mind, perhaps prompted by watching Ken Burn’s documentary, The War. I started watching it with my husband, Bob, his sister, Marge, and her husband, all of whom lived through that time—Bob having served in the Navy during the last year of the war; his brother-in-law, Tony, served in the Merchant Marines like my uncle, Johnny Peters. My dad, Charles Park, was in the army and nearly lost his arm in the Battle of the Bulge. My mom, Marguerite, did war work at Boeing Aircraft. Everyone was involved.

There were spiritual aspects of my family’s war stories: My dad thought that his arm had been lost. It hung from his shoulder by a few threads of tissue and he didn’t know it was there until he felt something slapping his leg as he walked back from the front lines. You see, Dad had stood up to throw a grenade and as soon as he let it go, he told us, something urgent inside told him to turn. If he hadn’t heeded that inner voice, he would have taken a machine gun blast straight in the chest. It likely would have killed him. His heart would have stopped then; not 36 years later during open-heart bypass surgery. He would not have become a dad; I would not have been born, at least not in this form with any of his blood, genes, talents, strengths, and weaknesses. All in my family have been grateful for that still small voice, and for my father’s attention to it. To everything, we hope, there is a season. Yet, watching Burns’ documentary, I can’t help but think that there should have been more seasons, many, many more seasons for the countless soldiers, sailors, marines, medics, nurses, workers and civilians throughout the world whose inner voices weren’t so insistent as Dad’s.

When Dad died on that operating table, it was something akin to a war death for those of us who remained. We had been told that he might not make it through, but we were completely unprepared when the news came. Others, people more severely ill, in fact, had survived such surgery, and Dad was only 61 years old. Besides, Dad was a fighter, a survivor; he believed he would survive, and so did we. But he did not come back to us. The prayers and the belief did not, at that time, manifest into physical reality. I want to think that he got a better offer when he was “out” (under anesthesia); that his inner voice didn’t fail him anymore during surgery than it did in WWII. It just said something different this time.

I said, “he did not come back to us” but that’s not quite true. When we were being informed of the aneurysm which killed him, he apparently came to my sister, Becky, as a small voice, or just a presence, perhaps, letting her know he trusted that she would take care of my mom. Or, maybe that she should take care of Mom. I don’t know. But both Becky and Mom have joyfully accepted the assignment and have bonded ever closer over the past twenty seven years since his death.

He came to me in a dream several months ago. He was driving what we called the “high wheeler,” a jeep-type vehicle on tractor tires that he bought to drive through the worst of the high North Dakota snow drifts on his rural mail carrier routes. In the dream, he stopped for me and I got in. I don’t remember knowing where we were going, but in the snowy dream, I felt happy, safe, and comforted. Then, I woke up. When I learned soon afterward that I would require open heart surgery for the replacement of a stenotic aortic value, I wondered if he had come to help me in my transition in case I didn’t make it through the surgery. Or perhaps he brought the high wheeler show me he was there to help me through this obstacle on my life path as he had used it to plow through the high snow banks that drifted over the roads on his route. I chose to hold on to the latter interpretation since I’m in no rush to move on; yet, both are comforting to me.

If this sounds a bit romantic and spooky, you should understand that messages from the beyond were not automatically disdained in my family—only considered with interest and curiosity. My maternal grandfather was a bit psychic, and wasn’t afraid to share his experiences. He knew, for example, when my dad, his son-in-law, was shot in WWII; he woke my grandmother to tell her. And he knew Dad was not mortally wounded. When Papa (my grandfather) had a heart attack (his second) one night close to Christmas of 1965, he said he felt himself floating out the window. But then, he said, when he remembered that he hadn’t said good-bye to my grandmother or given her his Christmas gift, he thought, “I must go back,” and blacked out. Just then, my grandmother turned as if in response to a sound he made and said, “What, Fred?” only to see him collapsing on the sofa. My aunt, Corky, also in the room, said she first looked up when my grandmother spoke. Papa, she said, had made no sound. Later, after the doctor had revived him and he had spent several more comfortable days at home; and after he’d given my Grandmother “Pete” her gift, he peacefully slipped away.

And so, I appreciate these messages and have no real fear of death as much more than a slipping out, a slipping into something else, a change of scene, a ride on a high-wheeler over the hills of snow. That will not, of course, keep me from speaking out against war, against capital punishment, against death by corporate greed. If life is a classroom, then I feel strongly (perhaps as a former teacher), that no one should drop out or fall out or be flunked out; rather, everyone should have a right to try and graduate, no matter how long it takes.

When, before his surgery, Dad and Mom tried to make sense of his illness, this heart health challenge, this problem, he surprised me by laying it to “the war” rather than to diet, cigarettes, genes. But seeing this documentary, and acknowledging what he faced, I understand that comment far better than before. Perhaps that particular war was “justified,” but it took a tremendous toll. The wounds he experienced went deeper than I had realized, and the cost of his and others’ pain has been borne for generations. In the fifth segment of the documentary, a fighter pilot said, “We are all casualties.” I recognize he rightly referred to all those who fought in what he called that “world of death,” but to some extent, at least, the casualty lists of wars, all wars, go on well beyond the building of monuments and making of documentaries.

There is so much work to be done on behalf of the Law of Circulation to cleanse our world of wounds suffered without and within. We are reminded in our services at TCNT to forgive, to go back to painful memories, to bless and let go. Not to forget, lest we fail to learn the lessons of the experiences, but to let go of our emotional investment in our wounds, losses and grief—including guilt, hatred, anger, resentment, pain. If we are, indeed, all One, then I cannot afford to hold a grudge, against even myself, against even my worst enemy, against even those who declare war and order others to kill and be killed, without re-energizing old pains and inflicting new wounds on myself, my beloved family members, friends, and the whole of Being for generations to come—delaying not only our own but the whole world’s spiritual progress.

New Thought tells us that forgiveness has little to do with the other party in some dispute or conflict. It has everything to do with us. We may or may not harm or heal someone else by withholding or granting forgiveness, but we definitely will harm or heal ourselves by our choice. By cleansing ourselves of resentment, anger, fear, and doubt, we return to our Divine Nature—comforted, healed, refreshed, capable, and as we feel Divinity in ourselves, so we recognize it in everyone.

Reverend Jackie Garner’s affirmation for forgiveness goes something like this:
“I refuse to let the pain of the past interfere with the joy in my life today.”

Sounds good to me.

Now, in order to make room for greater good to come, it's time for me to do battle with some clutter from the past that’s been hanging around my desk.